Over the next couple of months John and I are going to be forced to make some long term decisions.
Of course, the Navy has just about everything to do with it.
We moved here to Tennessee thinking he would get shore duty here and then ultimately get out of the Navy and settle down here. Now, that's pretty much just wishful thinking. I'm wondering where my 'worst case scenario' thinking was when we decided to buy this house. Who told me that John getting shore duty here would be a breeze? Was I intoxicated at the time?? Because I sure fell for it hook, line and sinker!
Basically for the past couple of months there's been nothing open here in TN for shore duty for John. The closest thing is NRD Atlanta and that's 3 hours away. It's just not happening. Our second best choice for shore duty, King's Bay GA, isn't even an option at this point either. And he's been informed by his detailer that he's in the 'needs of the Navy' window. So it's time to shit or get off the pot with the orders or else he'll be going back to Rotten Groton, CT.
As bad as I hate to admit it, I would much rather he extend on the boat and keep looking for orders. I'm shocked he didn't kill me when I told him that. But I just think he'd be much happier staying on the boat where he has less down time than taking some orders he didn't want to a shore duty. Plus he'd loose all this sea and sub pays. And he'd be going home every night to look a white wall because there's no way we could sell this house and go with him. I wouldn't even want to if it wasn't GA.
And staying on the boat brings up another point. If he extended, he'd have to reenlist to even get a shore duty. And he'd be reenlisting for free because bonuses are out the window at this point. And the very least he could reenlist for would be 4 years. That would make him over 10 years when his EAOS came around. And it'd be just stupid not to make a career out of it if you're already over half-way. And if he were to make a career out of the Navy, I couldn't live the whole time here without him. I would be much happier with him. If we could stay in GA for the rest of his career I would be overjoyed. Although, Ethan has made a ton of friends here and it would hurt my heart to take him out of school and move him.
There's just so much that's up in the air now that getting recruiting duty here in TN is pretty much a distant memory. I believe this month will be the deciding factor. If nothing opens up then it's time to make a hard decision.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
He's going to kill me
Matthew has to be the most stubborn kid I've ever known in my life!! I should have known it would be this way because he started off stubborn
I had always heard that you don't labor as long with the second child. And considering how Ethan was induced and I labored for a total of 5 hours, I begged the doctors to induce me with Matthew so I wouldn't have him in the car on the way to the hospital. My effort was fruitless but because he decided to hang out past his due date they were forced into it.
Even then, this child was stubborn. I labored for about 10 hours. Double what it took to deliver Ethan! When they broke my water, this child grabs onto the umbilical cord and says "No, I'll just hang out up here at the chandelier". He stayed so high I was worried they were going to have to do a c-section. But when he decided to come out, I went from 5-6 to 10 centimeters in less than 45 minutes.
Next he was late doing everything developmentally. He rolled over late, crawled late, walked late. It was all very frustrating to me because Ethan did all that very early.
And Matthew tests me. We've had this 'you can't play in the dog food' fight for a year now. Popping his hand doesn't stop him and neither does a pop on the butt. I just had to step away from writing this blog to pop his hind end because of the dog food. It's a never ending battle and I seriously don't think I will ever win. I'm gonna have a 13 year old playing in the dog food!!
And this kid can break things like no other. He pulls vents up out of the floor. He's bitten all the little rubber stoppers off the bottom of my coasters. I've had to glue them back on more times than I can count. He presses the buttons on the washer and dryer. He plays with the dental floss and Q-tips every single time you leave the bathroom door open. His main goal between 7:30 & 8:00 AM is to knock my glass of water from last night backwards on my nightstand so that I have to move the nightstand to dry it all up. He has almost zero interest in actually playing with his toys. 99% of the time they are ammunition. He thinks it's fun to pull my silverware drawer out into the floor. Then he proceeds to choke himself with a baby spoon. He unrolls the toilet paper every chance he gets. I can't even step away from the computer for 2 seconds before he makes a B-line for it. And Lord forbid he gets ahold of it because it'll take me an hour to fix what he just did. And he won't hold my hand if his life depended on it. He would rather sit down and scream as to hold my hand in a store or parking lot. He gets carried a lot!
I don't want to feel like I have to put everything of value to me up so my child won't break it. Ethan learned what he could and could not play with. Why can't Matthew do the same? I feel like if I'm not on top of him he's into something.
He's also the most scared kid I've ever met. He's only now just warming up to haircuts and he's been getting them for a year now. He doesn't like to stand on the scale at the doctors office. He cries and jumps off. He doesn't want to stand still long enough to get measured. He freaked out, cried and screamed because of the blood pressure cuff. He hated the band-aid they gave him after his finger prick.
And now, because of his stubbornness, he's got to get an evaluation from a speech therapist because he refuses to talk. I know he knows what I'm saying. He just won't repeat or even try to repeat. I've just quit paying him any mind when whines for something. It's not making the words come along any faster though.
He has to be the one most difficult child in the world. No wonder I'm exhausted all the time.
I had always heard that you don't labor as long with the second child. And considering how Ethan was induced and I labored for a total of 5 hours, I begged the doctors to induce me with Matthew so I wouldn't have him in the car on the way to the hospital. My effort was fruitless but because he decided to hang out past his due date they were forced into it.
Even then, this child was stubborn. I labored for about 10 hours. Double what it took to deliver Ethan! When they broke my water, this child grabs onto the umbilical cord and says "No, I'll just hang out up here at the chandelier". He stayed so high I was worried they were going to have to do a c-section. But when he decided to come out, I went from 5-6 to 10 centimeters in less than 45 minutes.
Next he was late doing everything developmentally. He rolled over late, crawled late, walked late. It was all very frustrating to me because Ethan did all that very early.
And Matthew tests me. We've had this 'you can't play in the dog food' fight for a year now. Popping his hand doesn't stop him and neither does a pop on the butt. I just had to step away from writing this blog to pop his hind end because of the dog food. It's a never ending battle and I seriously don't think I will ever win. I'm gonna have a 13 year old playing in the dog food!!
And this kid can break things like no other. He pulls vents up out of the floor. He's bitten all the little rubber stoppers off the bottom of my coasters. I've had to glue them back on more times than I can count. He presses the buttons on the washer and dryer. He plays with the dental floss and Q-tips every single time you leave the bathroom door open. His main goal between 7:30 & 8:00 AM is to knock my glass of water from last night backwards on my nightstand so that I have to move the nightstand to dry it all up. He has almost zero interest in actually playing with his toys. 99% of the time they are ammunition. He thinks it's fun to pull my silverware drawer out into the floor. Then he proceeds to choke himself with a baby spoon. He unrolls the toilet paper every chance he gets. I can't even step away from the computer for 2 seconds before he makes a B-line for it. And Lord forbid he gets ahold of it because it'll take me an hour to fix what he just did. And he won't hold my hand if his life depended on it. He would rather sit down and scream as to hold my hand in a store or parking lot. He gets carried a lot!
I don't want to feel like I have to put everything of value to me up so my child won't break it. Ethan learned what he could and could not play with. Why can't Matthew do the same? I feel like if I'm not on top of him he's into something.
He's also the most scared kid I've ever met. He's only now just warming up to haircuts and he's been getting them for a year now. He doesn't like to stand on the scale at the doctors office. He cries and jumps off. He doesn't want to stand still long enough to get measured. He freaked out, cried and screamed because of the blood pressure cuff. He hated the band-aid they gave him after his finger prick.
And now, because of his stubbornness, he's got to get an evaluation from a speech therapist because he refuses to talk. I know he knows what I'm saying. He just won't repeat or even try to repeat. I've just quit paying him any mind when whines for something. It's not making the words come along any faster though.
He has to be the one most difficult child in the world. No wonder I'm exhausted all the time.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Slacker, slacker
New Year's 'Goal' number 4 states that I will blog twice a week. Last blog post: January 9th. Check the date. Over 2 weeks without a dang post. This has to stop.
What was the outcome of the 'snow of this century'?? Big flippin' snow. I know I at least got 10inches. The town was shut down for a week. I haven't a clue as to why though. Everyone I know got out and drove around in it. It was like after a tornado where everyone has to go look at the damage. In this case, everyone but the salt trucks were out. I seriously don't think they even attempted to scraped the roads until Wednesday. It snowed overnight Sunday. And my neighbor, like a ding-dong, was out bright and early 8AM Monday morning putting all his bags of trash out by the road for the garbage truck. You can't even see the road and this man still thinks they are coming to get his trash that day.
School started back last week. I have SO much more reading and homework to do this semester! I just hope I can stay on it and not fall behind. I know if I do I will be playing catch up all year.
The workout plans been going good. I slacked 2 days I wasn't suppose to (make that 3 after I crawl in bed tonight and make my offical 'I'm not working out today' decision). I'm actually gaining a little bit of weight. I expected that though. Muscle weights more than fat and I can definately see tiny biceps forming. Oh, and I can squeeze my booty back into my A&F size 2's and breathe while wearing them! That's an acomplishment! Actually, they've become my favorite pair because my others are starting to look like boy pants. My saddlebags and butt are shaping up too, obviously.
And last but certainly not least, my baby turned 2 today!! I can't believe it's been 2 years already. It's crazy how time flies. He's becoming such a big boy and I love it and hate it at the same time. It almost makes me want another.... but just for a split second.
What was the outcome of the 'snow of this century'?? Big flippin' snow. I know I at least got 10inches. The town was shut down for a week. I haven't a clue as to why though. Everyone I know got out and drove around in it. It was like after a tornado where everyone has to go look at the damage. In this case, everyone but the salt trucks were out. I seriously don't think they even attempted to scraped the roads until Wednesday. It snowed overnight Sunday. And my neighbor, like a ding-dong, was out bright and early 8AM Monday morning putting all his bags of trash out by the road for the garbage truck. You can't even see the road and this man still thinks they are coming to get his trash that day.
School started back last week. I have SO much more reading and homework to do this semester! I just hope I can stay on it and not fall behind. I know if I do I will be playing catch up all year.
The workout plans been going good. I slacked 2 days I wasn't suppose to (make that 3 after I crawl in bed tonight and make my offical 'I'm not working out today' decision). I'm actually gaining a little bit of weight. I expected that though. Muscle weights more than fat and I can definately see tiny biceps forming. Oh, and I can squeeze my booty back into my A&F size 2's and breathe while wearing them! That's an acomplishment! Actually, they've become my favorite pair because my others are starting to look like boy pants. My saddlebags and butt are shaping up too, obviously.
And last but certainly not least, my baby turned 2 today!! I can't believe it's been 2 years already. It's crazy how time flies. He's becoming such a big boy and I love it and hate it at the same time. It almost makes me want another.... but just for a split second.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
If you can't beat 'em, join 'em
Apparently we are in for the 'second biggest snow of the century' here in the TN valley. The first of course being the blizzard of 1993. I have been praying for NO SNOW all day. We got our Christmas Day snow this year--and it was a good one-- so I believe we are done for the year. I don't think I've ever seen this much snow in one year here in my life--once again minus the blizzard.
This is the south, we don't get snow. All we get is cold.
My main reason for being a snow hater today is that I don't want school to be called out. We just got off Christmas break which was way to long anyway. I like my schedule! I want the week to start already! Buuuut, seeing as how if they call for more than 2 snowflakes the McMinn County school system SHUTS DOWN. Hell, they shut down if it rains too hard! True story.
So needless to say, school for Monday was cancelled as of 4:45PM today. Yeah, we haven't even seen a cloud yet. I guess now I can just join the snow dance. If it's gonna come, it better be a big one-- but puh-lease let me have power the entire time!
On a different subject, I've done a great job so far with my workout schedule. I feel great too. But I'm seriously gonna stop posting about my workouts on Facebook. I think I'm like false advertisement for these workout videos. Yes, I'm little. I've always been little. The reason I need Jillian Michael's in my life is to put my hind end back in it's original God given position. People ask me questions about my workout like that's how I got little... it's totally not.
This is the south, we don't get snow. All we get is cold.
My main reason for being a snow hater today is that I don't want school to be called out. We just got off Christmas break which was way to long anyway. I like my schedule! I want the week to start already! Buuuut, seeing as how if they call for more than 2 snowflakes the McMinn County school system SHUTS DOWN. Hell, they shut down if it rains too hard! True story.
So needless to say, school for Monday was cancelled as of 4:45PM today. Yeah, we haven't even seen a cloud yet. I guess now I can just join the snow dance. If it's gonna come, it better be a big one-- but puh-lease let me have power the entire time!
On a different subject, I've done a great job so far with my workout schedule. I feel great too. But I'm seriously gonna stop posting about my workouts on Facebook. I think I'm like false advertisement for these workout videos. Yes, I'm little. I've always been little. The reason I need Jillian Michael's in my life is to put my hind end back in it's original God given position. People ask me questions about my workout like that's how I got little... it's totally not.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
New Year, New Blog
Ok, well, actually I've been a blogging slacker for about oooooooooooooh 2 years now. Or basically since Myspace became the lame, loser hangout. Or it could have a lot to do with the fact that I have 2 kids to chase after. But, whatever the reason, I loved blogging and that is just 1 of my many resolutions--actually, no, I'm not calling it resolutions this year because I never stick to those so it's GOALS.
Here are the rest of my goals:
*Get in shape
*Minimize debt
*Enter Maxim's Hometown Hotties (Did it once, got to the voting, had to drop out after that because they didn't consider Guam the US and that's where I was living at the time)
*Family vacation to Disney
*Become a PartyLite leader and go to National Conference
*Get a job (a real one.. the kind I'm going to school for)
*Find a good church and become a member
*Plan a Gatlinburg getaway
*Breast Augmentation
I'm sure this list will get longer and longer as the year rolls along but for now, that's all. Let's see how many of these I will have a check beside come Dec 31 2011.
Here are the rest of my goals:
*Get in shape
*Minimize debt
*New e-mail address (I know I could take care of that right now but I always put it off because it's sooo hard to change your e-mail on every site... but my current e-mail addy is so 10 years ago)
*Start a blogspot and blog twice a week*Enter Maxim's Hometown Hotties (Did it once, got to the voting, had to drop out after that because they didn't consider Guam the US and that's where I was living at the time)
*Family vacation to Disney
*Become a PartyLite leader and go to National Conference
*Get a job (a real one.. the kind I'm going to school for)
*Find a good church and become a member
*Plan a Gatlinburg getaway
*Breast Augmentation
I'm sure this list will get longer and longer as the year rolls along but for now, that's all. Let's see how many of these I will have a check beside come Dec 31 2011.
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